Who is The Elective Orphan?
My name is Sarah, I am thirty-three years young, and an ‘Elective Orphan’. I chose to leave my ‘parents’ behind at age sixteen after a childhood of abuse.
These days I am a Cognitive Neuroscience graduate, a marketeer, an author, Personal Coach and a ninja. One of those things was a lie. My mission in life is to be living proof that your past need not dictate your future. Change is really hard work, but it’s so worth it.
Here is the synopsis from my book, returning to Amazon in early 2015.
Let me introduce myself. My name is Sarah. I am thirty-two years young, and I am what I like to call an ‘elective orphan’. That is to say that I chose to live without my parents for my own good. My interest in Psychology and Neuroscience has been with me for as long as I can remember. I was always interested in what went on in the minds’ and brains’ of my abusive parents. And then as I grew up, I became more interested in the workings of my own mind, as I began to realise all the mistakes I was making. Even though I was free of my parents, I was allowing history to repeat itself.
What leads an intelligent person to seek out more abuse? Why do girls with ‘Daddy Issues’ crave men just like their fathers?
My search for love and acceptance took me down many rabbit-holes. I now know that none of them served as an escape from my childhood pain, but more an extension of it.
So what can psychological theories tell me about myself?
And can a lost child ever really grow up?